How to Develop Self-Control as a Christian

by | May 19, 2023 | Fruit of the Spirit

Self-control is a crucial trait for Christians to develop in their lives. As followers of Christ, we are called to live a life that reflects the values and character of our Savior. This gift is the ability to control one’s thoughts, actions, and emotions. We as Christians need to develop it if we want to live a life that is pleasing to God. 

Without self-control, we may find ourselves living a life that is not in line with God’s will for us. But, by cultivating self-control, we can live a life of discipline, integrity, and selflessness. This will bring glory to God through our actions.

Understanding Self-Control

Before we move forward, we need to define what we mean when we say self-control. In the context of Christianity, self-control is the ability to resist temptation and to bring our thoughts, actions, and emotions under the control of the Holy Spirit, rather than giving in to the desires of the flesh.

Self-control is hard for Christians because it means resisting our urges and relying on the Holy Spirit to guide us. As humans, we naturally seek pleasure and avoid pain, but as Christians, we are called to live righteously. Without self-control, we may make choices that go against God’s will. Developing self-control helps us resist temptation and live a life that pleases God.

Identifying Areas of Struggle

Christians need to exercise self-control in all areas of life, but some areas may be harder than others. These areas will be different for everyone, and that is why we need to look at what we personally struggle with.  Recognizing these areas of struggle is the first step in living a life that honors God.

Christians should identify their areas of struggle with self-control to start addressing them. This means recognizing where you tend to give in to temptation or where you struggle to exercise self-discipline.

Practical Tips for Developing Self-Control

There are many ways to develop self-control in a godly way. Let’s talk about it:

  • Mindfulness: Know yourself to help identify areas where you struggle with self-control. This is what we talked about earlier in this blog. 
  • Positive Influences: Surround yourself with supportive friends. This will allow you to thrive by keeping each other accountable while supporting one another.
  • Making a Plan: Set achievable goals and break them into smaller, manageable steps. Celebrate successes and don’t be discouraged by setbacks. Remember that progress and growth is not linear.
  • Relying on the Holy Spirit: Pray for guidance and strength. Depending on the Holy Spirit to help you focus on God’s will is one of the best ways to succeed.

Developing self-control takes effort and commitment, but with these tips and the help of the Holy Spirit, it is possible to live a life that honors God.

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Developing self-control is an important part of a Christian’s spiritual growth. It involves being mindful, seeking positive influences, making achievable plans, and relying on the Holy Spirit. While there may be challenges along the way, it is possible to overcome areas of weakness and live a life that honors Him. Remember to continue growing in the fruit of the Spirit, including self-control, and reflecting the love and grace of Jesus Christ.

Contact us to learn more about how ORBC can help you!

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