The sad truth is life is full of conflict. Sometimes that conflict comes between our siblings in Christ. What does the Bible say about handling conflict between our fellow people? The following blog speaks on biblical conflict resolution principles every Christian has to know.
The Bible says we must go to our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ and make every effort to find peace (Matthew 18:15-20 ESV). Although this can be difficult, it is important to living a Christ-like life.How are we called to handle conflict in our lives? This blog post has some biblical conflict resolution principles for us to follow. #ORBC Click To Tweet
How are we supposed to resolve conflict?
Although many verses speak on conflict resolution, the main verse we will be focusing on is Matthew 18:15-20. Here is what it says:
15 “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses.
17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. 18 Truly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed[f] in heaven.
19 Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them.”
This scripture gives clear instructions on how to handle conflict. First, you have to kindly confront the person who wronged you. It is then your brother’s job to listen to you and strive for peace.
There is a comfort (and somewhat of a warning) at the end of this passage. Verse 20 says that where two or more people gather in my name (specifically when resolving conflict) The Son will be there as well. Therefore, it is important to have the right mindset when dealing with conflict.
Have Understanding and Forgiveness for Your Fellow Man
A key factor in conflict resolution is remembering that your brother is just as broken by sin as you are. Although we are imperfect people, God still sent his Son to die on the cross for our salvation.
Because the Lord extended that grace to us, and we as Christians are constantly striving to be more like Christ, we need to show grace to our fellow man. Jesus said to forgive our brothers and sisters “not seven times, but seventy times seven.” (Matthew 18:21-22).
Strive for Peace
In all situations, Christians need to strive for peace. This includes when two Christians conflicting. If your brother comes to you because you hurt him, listen to him and try to reconcile. At the end of the day, your relationships with your close friends are more important than pride.
Reconcile With Your Brother if You Can
Despite all efforts, sometimes we cannot resolve conflict in a satisfying way. In those instances, we should not hold any grudges against those who have harmed us.
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